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Good Morning brethren, I would like to write on the topic: “Guidance for singles and young adults.” This is a subject that should be dear to all of us, especially as we appear to be in a season where the number of singles and young adults in our churches and communities is steadily increasing. While this is certainly a blessing, it can also become a concern if we fail to provide the guidance and support they need.

The season of singleness and young adulthood is a time of growth, discovery, and preparation. Many young people face important questions about purpose, relationships, careers, identity, and the future. To God be the glory, the Bible provides wisdom and direction for navigating this significant season successfully. Proverbs 3:5–6 reminds us “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” As parents, leaders, ministers, and pastors, we must be intentional about helping young people build their identity in Christ. This foundation must be established early—before they begin seeking relationships, careers, or approval from others. They need to understand who they are in Christ (Ephesians 2:10; 1 Peter 2:9).

Unfortunately, many young adults today struggle with comparison, social pressure, and insecurity. They need to know that their worth is not determined by their relationship status, achievements, appearance, or social media presence. Rather, their identity comes from God. When they are secure in who they are in Christ, they become less vulnerable to unhealthy relationships and destructive choices.

Joseph provides a powerful example. Despite being rejected by his brothers and falsely accused in Egypt (Genesis 37–39), he remained faithful to God. His confidence was rooted in God’s purpose rather than people’s opinions.

This can be achieved by spending time daily in God’s Word, avoiding comparisons with others, remembering that your value comes from God alone. We must also encourage singles and young adults to seek God first before seeking a relationship. The desire for companionship is natural and God-given. However, pursuing a relationship without first seeking God’s guidance can lead to unnecessary pain. God’s timing is always better than human impatience. Please, view the season of singleness as a period of preparation rather than punishment. The marriage of Isaac and Rebekah (Genesis 24) demonstrates how God’s direction and timing can guide relationships. God’s hand was evident throughout the process because it was committed to prayer. This becomes possible when we focus on becoming the right person rather than merely finding the right person, allow God to guide our relationships, refuse to compromise biblical standards because of loneliness. It is equally important to teach young adults to pursue purity and holiness. God calls His people to live holy lives and to honour Him with their bodies and minds. Purity is not merely avoiding sin; it is pursuing God’s best. Joseph’s response to the temptation presented by Potiphar’s wife (Genesis 39:7–12) remains a powerful example. He chose integrity over temporary pleasure and fled from temptation. Young adults should also be encouraged to discover and develop their God-given purpose. God desires them to be productive and fruitful while preparing for future opportunities. David serves as an excellent example. Before becoming king, he spent years tending sheep. His season of preparation developed the character and faith necessary for leadership (1 Samuel 16–17). We should also remind young adults to choose wise friendships and mentors, as the people around them greatly influence their decisions, character, and future. God often guides us through godly counsel and relationships. Timothy benefited greatly from the mentorship of Paul. Through guidance, discipleship, and encouragement, he became an effective leader in the early church. Finally, teach them to trust in God’s timing. This will help them overcome the pressure to achieve everything quickly and according to the world’s expectations. Isaiah 40:31 assures us “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.”

In conclusion, singleness and young adulthood are seasons to be maximised, not merely endured. God desires every young person to grow spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and relationally during this time. Psalm 37:5 says “Commit your way to the Lord; trust in Him, and He will act.” May the Lord continue to guide the steps of our singles and young adults and prepare them for the future He has planned for them, in Jesus name. Amen. Service begins at 10:15am and the Worker’s meeting starts at 09:45am. God’s blessings - Mike